Monday, February 22, 2010

Keeping It Real

Hello Monday. I hope the weekend treated you well. Mine was fine. Back to the usual running with the Dear Twins and such. Weekends are so busy that Monday mornings seems like a breather. Although I will admit to wasting away much of Saturday on the bed in front of the TV nursing my eye which is a lot better. The DH was kind enough to put the kidlit miles on his car and do all the driving while I held down the home fort. Ahh domestic life.

But all this is not the focus on today’s post. Today I’d like to discuss something I’ve been grappling with a while. The idea of keeping it real and how real can real be on ye old blog. You see something has not been quite sitting right with me.

There are plenty of days when I write a perfectly fine blog post but I glaze over a subject when I’d like to go deeper, be a little sharper, maybe more snarky, not so darn happy and let more of my neurotic self come though. But then that neurotic self takes over and I get to fretting. I start to compare myself to those shiny happy pretty blogs and worry that if I get too real and show my true self or give my real opinions you all won’t come back or you’ll stop reading.

Silly I know. To get to 40 and still worry what others think. What a shame. What waste or time, energy and so precious words.

Besides when I look back on past posts where I am more real and let my feelings show you all have responded so beautifully and shown more of yourselves to me. For that I am grateful.
So what I guess what I’m saying here is it’s time for ye old blog to grow up a bit. Get more real and show more of who I really am. Lord knows when I look in the mirror I see plenty of changes, I might as well express them here too.

Every day is not sunny and every day it does not rain.

Much Love,


Debra said...

I like your honesty Kwana. I think we all use our blogs differently. Some have a glossy exterior and things seem to be pretty perfect in their worlds. While others want to share more about what is real in their worlds, and it's not always so glossy. Think of it as your own book- you can write and share whatever is important and meaningful to you on any given day. We will always look forward to the next chapter darlin'. Enjoy a quiet day.

Purple Flowers said...

I second Debra's comments. I tried writing something,but my brain is not functioning quite right just yet. Please be yourself, and everything will come together. I'll always come see you! :)

pve design said...

"Truly" life is too short not to hold back from the life intended in each of us. If you express your passion, it will love you back.
Go deep, get it out, and feel the love. You know we will always love you and your point of view, eye roll and all.

Kristen Painter said...

I say bust it out. It's your blog. Write what you want to.

Deidra said...

I love real. I love real food, real wrinkles, real age spots, real gray hair (OK, maybe not so much on the gray hair), and real conversations. Sometimes a blog is the right place to be real, and sometimes it's not. You know what's best for you and yours. Be true to that. For real.

Deidra said...

Oh! And THANK YOU for my blog award! Congratulations to you for winning two (!) of them! You rock. And that's no lie!

annechovie said...

Kwana, being who you are is always a good thing! Bring on the transparency....I like that about you! xx Have a great day!

Katrina said...

You are a lot braver than me Kwana. I try to stop censoring myself, but I find myself hitting the delete key too often to count. I even censor myself when commenting on others blogs! It's great that you are being you--I wish had the same strength.

Joyce said...

Kwana this is so funny I was just talking about this last night with my love. How I am afraid the same thing not to share the rainy days, and wondering if really others have all of those happy days. If I share too much others will think I'm too heavy (more way then others- smile...). I think there are a lot of us out there that struggle with the same thing. I like how you keep things real. I think Deb summed it all up in a nut shell. Hugs... xo

Medical Librarian said...

I appreciate honesty in a blog, but I definitely think you should share whatever you want to share. If you don't feel comfortable blogging about something, I think that's perfectly fine. I don't think being honest means being completely open about everything.

On a side note, am I the only one who actually thinks the before Heidi Montag is more attractive than the artificially-enhanced after version?

That's Not My Age said...

Kwana, I agree with KP, I think you should write whatever you feel like - happy or snarky - we'll still be here to read it.

A Day That is Dessert said...

I think most of us enjoy reading personal blogs that are truly personal. Your true voice and experiences are the most interesting things for others to read.

Wishing you a good start to your week! xo

Kwana said...

Thanks so much for your responses. I truly appreciate them. Nice to know I can let that critic go a little bit. It is really hard though knowing the world is watching.

Medical Librarian I agree that Heidi looked so much better before all that surgery. Now she looks older and just fake.

Joyce I know your struggle. It's hard to let go.

Tamstyles said...

this is a damn shame looking at what she did to herself..

Ina in Alaska said...

Interesting. Looking forward to what comes up. I cannot be too real on my blog because I have family members who read it and I have to be a bit careful not to get too "real". Plenty has gone on in my life regardless of what I am saying in my posts... some incidents which I could never share due to the family readers. Painful and hurtful things have happened. Once the word is out it can never be taken back and I would never hear the end of it. I have found a lot of support among you bloggers who I also consider friends. xoxo


Stay beautiful & creative as always Kwana! There are great comments here!!

N said...

And thank God Heidi Montag doesn't live up the block from me. Whew. No matter what you think and what you post, you are way more fun (and clearly, real) than that. :-) xoxo

Laura @ the shorehouse. said...

Amen to that!

Just so long as I don't have to wear a bikini. No one needs me to keep it THAT real. ;-)

I love your honesty and since you're a writer you're able to communicate it in such a meaningful, interesting way. It's what makes Kwana...Kwana!

Hope you're feeling better. Isn't pink eye like the most annoying thing ever? Blech.

Blog Widget by LinkWithin

blogger templates | Make Money Online